It's okay to do less

The last few weeks have felt a little wonky - maybe it's the travel or the end of the vacation season, but I feel like I haven't totally found my post-summer flow.

Although I have SO much I want to share with you here, I'm struggling to find a regular time and space to write.

In addition to taking on a few more 1:1 coaching clients and working on some exciting projects with Robyn, I've been focused on my own gut stuff and making my health my #1 priority.

Despite being a health coach and virtually living in a world of wellness, this is the first time in years (or maybe ever???) I'm really, really putting myself first.

And you know what I've realized? Putting yourself first sometimes means being a little quieter and doing a little less while you go in a little more. And for right now, I am okay with that.

I'm okay with not being the first to check out the latest and greatest matcha spot in Brooklyn. I'm okay with passing on dessert during a fancy dinner and sipping hot water with lemon instead (not saying it was easy... but I'm okay with it). I'm okay with saying "no" to some networking opportunities and not immediately responding to every email that comes my way.

It's okay to do less.

It's also okay to share or give less.

If you're in a position of leadership, influence or service (which most people are to some extent), your default setting is likely giving out a lot of energy. Sharing your expertise or advice, teaching or mentoring, or mothering.

This is amazing, but not sustainable 100% of the time. As much as we give, we also need to receive. And I'll take that a step further to say it's not just about receiving support, encouragement and love... it's about digesting those energies as well [see last week's post for more on that!]

All this is to say... I'm digesting!!! ;)

I'm leaning into this space of processing and allowing myself to not juggle all the things and instead focus on fewer things, more important things.

I'm not telling you this as an excuse of any kind, but simply as a reminder that it is okay if you're feeling this way too. It's okay if you need to take a break from something to focus on you. And it's okay if you need to conserve your time and energy and do a little less than what feels normal to you.

It's all okay friends.

Serene sunset over the sound this weekend in Duck, North Carolina

Serene sunset over the sound this weekend in Duck, North Carolina

On that note, I do want to share a few quick reads, views or listens that may provide you with a little inspiration or entertainment while I'm feeling a little more quiet on the sharing front:

  • Watch: Simon Sinek on Millennials in the Workplace - Whether or not you work with anyone from the millennial generation, I think this 15 minute interview is a must-watch. I whole-heartedly believe that social media (and work) are the newest forms of addiction and that we're going to be hearing a LOT more on this subject in the years to come.

  • Listen: Abbie Galvin on The Lifestylist Podcast - I've been practicing a LOT of Katonah yoga the last year. A full blog post is definitely in the works, but if you're curious on learning more about this unique style of yoga and the theory behind it, listen to this episode with my teacher Abbie.

  • Read: Gabby Bernstein's Blog Post on Gut Health - Gabby is a modern spiritual leader, and she's not shy about sharing her own gut and food struggles. This blog post goes into detail about her own challenges and gut healing story. I skimmed it yesterday and look forward to diving in more fully later this week.

Hope one of these will be of interest or useful for you!

My mantra for this summer

I've been into watching Grey's Anatomy recently, which may come as a surprise for to some of you - I've never been a big TV person, but the last year or so I've gotten into different Netflix or HBO series that I can watch on my computer, on my own time.

At first I just wanted something to occupy me while I was sweating in my infrared sauna, but I've started to enjoy the routine of watching a show and allowing my brain to wind down from the day.

 

 

Side note: I know many people numb out on TV, and while I'm definitely not immune to that, I'm starting to believe that watching a good series can also be a healing and meditative experience... I for one have had MANY "aha" moments while binging on Sex and The City and Grey's, but I'll save that conversation for another blog post ;)

 

Anyways, during an episode of Grey's (at least I THINK it was an episode of Grey's...) the narrator started going on about how life is not a race, how there's no prize for getting through it the fastest, there's no way to "win" it.

And for some reason it really hit me while watching that episode (see what I told you about TV being a space for aha moments?): There's really no rush.

Time is a funny thing - usually we talk about how time flies when we're having fun, how we don't have enough of it, how we're racing against the clock. Because our thoughts and words color how we experience reality, we then end up packing our schedules, racing from thing to thing, and stressing about not being able to fit in what's important to us.

 

 

What if we took off the pressure to "do it all" and simply focused on doing a few things that we truly enjoyed?

Instead of trying to get through our entire to-do lists, what if we concentrated on completing the ONE thing that mattered most?

 

My mantra for this summer is: SLOW DOWN.

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Maybe you (like me) are guilty of wanting to do it all. I want to travel the world, have a successful career, run a marathon and master a handstand, meet the love of my life and have cute babies. All before I'm 35 (used to be 30, but that ship has sailed...).

You don't win if you get through life the quickest, and there's no prize for checking off milestones or accomplishments before everyone else.

So this summer I'm leaning into the art of doing less. I'm making fewer plans and allowing myself time to get bored. To decorate my apartment. To read a novel (or five). To call my friends. To lay in bed a little longer than I think I should. To watch the sunset.

Here are a few practical tips to embracING the summer slow down:

  1. Prioritize and downsize your to-do list. I use an online task management system and dump all my to-dos in there. Each day I focus on 1 or 2 important tasks to complete from the list.

  2. Allow buffer time. Instead of leaving for work (or a meeting, or an appointment, or yoga class) with just enough time to spare, give yourself some "buffer." Not only will this extra time mean that you're not rushing, you may even have a few minutes to wander, window shop, call your mom, or just breath.

  3. Meditate. Seriously though, this is the easiest way to shift your perspective around time and approach your day with a more grounded, calm mindset. Even one minute helps.

  4. Streamline your online time. Give yourself windows of time when you'll be online (whether that's responding to emails and text messages, or posting to Instagram), and then resist the urge to get online outside of those windows. Social media and email can be huge time sucks if you're not mindful about how you use them.

  5. Turn your phone off. I usually put my phone on airplane mode an hour or two before bedtime, but also when I have an important project to finish or when I'm spending time with friends, or in nature. It's nice to not be reachable for a little bit :)

Airplane mode is your new BFF.

Airplane mode is your new BFF.

Practicing these tips are helping me change my go go go reflex. It's not always easy, but it's happening. I'm slowing down and it feels pretty darn good.