The value of resistance

Yesterday afternoon I was on a call with a client, Katie - she's a coach and we used our session to talk through a new program she wants to launch this fall.

When we started our coaching call, she mentioned having a ton of resistance to this program. "It sounds fun" she said "but I'm just feeling stuck around it."

During our call, I led her through a meditation (I start many of my longer coaching calls like this!) and then we shook out all the details for her program. We took the ideas and thoughts that she had swirling in her head and made them into a tangible, action oriented, realistic plan.

I have a ton of experience with online marketing and launching programs through running my own business and supporting Robyn in running Your Healthiest You the last 4+ years. It's FUN for me to share some of the tips, tricks and best practices I've learned with my entrepreneur and aspiring entrepreneur clients.

There's value in looking at your resistance.

Sometimes we feel resistance because there's something in our plan or action that isn't aligned with our spirit, our best intention or higher self. But sometimes we simply feel resistance because we're walking into new territory and we need someone to help us find our way.

For Katie, the resistance was a combination of both. She was doing something new, yes, but through our session we also discovered that she wasn't planning to charge nearly enough for what she wanted to offer through this program. The price point didn't match the service, or the target customer.

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There's value in looking at your resistance.

Today I want you to look more closely at a new business project, a family matter or food/health change that you're feeling stuck around. I know, I know - this may be a big ask for a summer Friday, but hear me out (or mark this email as unread and come back to it on Sunday or Monday).

Below are some questions to ask yourself to get un-stuck. You can ask yourself these questions in a meditation, via journaling or call up a friend and have her or him ask you the questions out loud.

Bonus tip: Notice which inquiry method most appeals. I'm a huge fan of journaling, but some people do better actually talking through an issue.

Questions to ask yourself when you're feeling stuck:

  • Is this the most aligned plan of action for me? If no, what feels more aligned (or how can I feel more aligned with this)?

  • Is there something else about the scenario or problem that I need to know in order to move forward?

  • Is there a piece of my plan that needs to change?

  • Do I simply need more time? Am I putting to much pressure on myself to just get it done?

  • Do I need external support? If so, who is the best person to help me out?

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Towards the end of my call with Katie, I mentioned that I too had a project I was feeling a ton of resistance around (hint: it's something I mentioned in my last email).

I'm going to use these exact questions to dive into my resistance and find clarity around why I'm feeling stuck and how to move forward. I think I have an idea what's going on, but sometimes our resistance isn't exactly what it seems, there's usually a layer deeper (like with Katie and what we discovered about the misaligned price of her program).

If you use these questions and find them helpful, I'd love to know!

Leave a comment below, or better yet, share a photo or video on social media with your insight or aha. Make sure to tag me @emilynachazel so I can see your inspirational posts!

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What #retreatlife looks like

Imagine waking up to this...

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Sipping your morning coffee, matcha or tea here...

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And practicing yoga with this view...

Guess what? You can have all these things when you join me for my Maine Retreat in September!

The house we'll be staying at is right on the beach - you can catch the sunrise from the deck or walk 2 minutes to get the full sunrise-over-the-ocean experience (highly recommended - it truly is epic!).

After sunrise (and if you don't want to wake up that early, that's totally okay too! You do you!) we'll enjoy a light breakfast before our morning yoga practice. We'll either practice on said deck with the ocean in the background, or in our private woods studio.

Morning yoga will be followed by a break and then we'll gather back together for a delicious vegetarian brunch. Yes, there will be my infamous paleo pancakes and matcha lattes.

After brunch you'll have free time - you can take a walk or nap on the beach (there are giant rocks at the end which is my favorite place for a relaxing afternoon of sun bathing and reading), explore the local area (so many fun shops and sights) or stay cozy in the cottage where there a plenty of nooks for reading, writing or reflecting.

Later in the afternoon there will be an optional workshop designed to inform and inspire you - we'll talk about Human Design, Astrology, Katonah Yoga and more!

Before dinner we'll do a short meditation so that we can all be more full present with our delicious, mostly organic and totally delicious meal.

After dinner there will be tea, tarot and good conversation, or quiet time and bed if you're feeling like that would be more supportive. One evening we'll have a new moon ceremony and one evening we'll go out on the town, but like everything, it's totally optional!

Does this sound like a dreamy schedule? Come with us!

Spots are filling fast (I intentionally wanted this to be a small, intimate group) so even if you're a little bit interested, check out the retreat details here today: http://www.emilynachazel.com/maine-retreat-2019

The website has all the must know info: dates, pricing, what's included, how to get there and FAQs (yes, all humans are welcome, sorry no pets or babies for this one). There's also the option to extend your retreat beyond the weekend and stay for some extra time in nature and, if you'd like, some extra 1:1 time with me!

Early bird pricing ends on 7/15 but I have a feeling many of the rooms will be fully booked by then so don't wait. YOU DESERVE THIS GETAWAY!!

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If you want to be there, I want you to be there! Please feel free to reach out to me with any additional questions, concerns, or anything that is holding you back from putting down your deposit today.


For details + to register, head here:

2019 Maine Retreat with Emily

You're invited to my happy place (RETREAT!)

My biggest challenge (in being a coach, an entrepreneur and a human in this modern world) has been learning to manage my energy. I’m a naturally energetic person (especially when perusing my passions like healthy food, yoga and self development), but even I have found myself burnt out, feeling stuck and unable to create or move forward with the projects I’m working on, both professionally and personally.

The modern world is fuller than it’s ever been with our always available information, endless work and infinite possibilities for growth and learning. This can be incredible – now more than ever we are empowered to pursue our passions and live our #bestlives. There’s so much energy and so much support around manifesting the life of your dreams.

However, it can be challenging to tune in and listen for what you really want amidst the noise of the day-to-day, and it can be challenging to find the energy to dream if you’re feeling drained from your very full life.

One thing I’ve learned is the importance of taking time off. Not signing out of email for the weekend (although that’s important too!), but creating space to physically remove myself from my work environment, to escape the hustle and bustle of the city and to immerse myself in nature, self care and meaningful connection with myself and with others.

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My family’s house in Kittery Point, Maine has been one place I’m fortunate to retreat to several times a year, and now you too can join me for a relaxing + restorative weekend in my “happy place.”

I’ve participated, co-hosted, supported and collaborated on over a dozen retreats throughout the last 5 years. This retreat is everything I would want in a weekend and I’m thrilled to invite you to join me for it.

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This all-inclusive long weekend is for creatives, entrepreneurs and caregivers (if you’re a teacher, boss, parent, or simply someone who cares for others as part of your job or life, you’re a caregiver!) looking to recharge physically, mentally and emotionally. We’ll enjoy delicious healthy food, daily yoga, and the peacefulness of nature. There will be optional afternoon workshops designed to inspire and restore you, and give you the boost you need to move forward with whatever professional or personal projects you’re working on.

There's also an option to stay past the weekend and either have more time to relax, or dive deeper into your goals and challenges through a special coaching add on. Think of it like a mix between vacation, summer camp and a mastermind. It’s going to be incredible and I’m almost looking forward to this time more than the retreat itself. Almost ;)

There are very limited spaces - 9 total, 3 of which have already been taken. If anything here sparks your curiosity, I encourage you to check out the retreat page for more details and register.

I can’t wait to welcome you to this special place, for such a special weekend in September!


For details + to register, head here:

2019 Maine Retreat with Emily

Never underestimate the power of this

Truth: I had a ton of resistance leading up to this past weekend's retreat in the Catskills. Even though I was cooking for the retreat, my mind made up all these reasons why I didn't need to go and why I shouldn't go.

Over the last 5 years, I've co-hosted, supported, helped organize and participated in over a dozen retreats. Each time some sort of resistance comes up. I somehow make it through and each time I'm blown away by the transformative power of a weekend (or week) away.

This weekend was no different.

Yogis do sunset in the Catskills - stunning!

Yogis do sunset in the Catskills - stunning!

The focus of the weekend was around self care: we meditated on what in our lives needs to go, we journaled on the practices or habits we felt needed to come in and we had real, honest conversations about our challenges taking care of ourselves as adults in the modern world.

Our three days in the mountains felt like WAY longer - there was time for all the things (yoga, healthy food, hiking, down time, sleep!). I felt myself shed an energetic layer of "stuff" I wasn't even fully aware I was carrying around.

The space and time for reflection also allowed me to get even clearer on my next steps: what's important to me right now, where I want to focus my energy and what I need to let go of in order for my goals to come to fruition.

Our weekend escape house - look at that blue sky!

Our weekend escape house - look at that blue sky!

As I've shared before, sometimes I feel like I'm just learning how to be a grown up now. Sure my parents, family and school taught me a lot of the practical steps, but as I walk through this 3rd decade of my life, I'm surprised at the emotional, mental and spiritual lessons I'm learning.

And while many of those lessons are learned in the day to day, the actual acknowledgment, processing and integration of those lessons usually occurs when I'm able to remove myself from my regular routine, like when I'm on a retreat or vacation.

I've said this after other retreats, and I'll likely say it again: never underestimate the power of a weekend away.

Whether it's a week in Sedona with your parents (major lessons there my friends - read this post if you haven't already), escaping the city for a quiet weekend in the country or renting an AirBnB for a night away from your regular routine, removing yourself from the distractions of your every day life has tremendous transformative and restorative power.

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On the bus ride back from the Catskills I was inspired to flush out all the details for an early fall retreat at my family's house in Maine. This is something I've been dreaming about for a long time (ever since we renovated the house 3 years ago). Even though I had other work to do, even though I was a little car sick from the ride, my gut said to DO IT and so I did.

This retreat is coming together (I promise I will be sharing details soon - it will be Sept 26-30 if you want to mark the date on your calendar!!) and I know none of this would have happened if I hadn't had the time away to recharge my body and my spirit.

Wildflowers EVERYWHERE! So beautiful.

Wildflowers EVERYWHERE! So beautiful.

One of my coaching clients joined us on this retreat. Earlier this week we had a call to recap what came up and how she wants to take what she learned in the weekend and bring it into her life.

My coaching for her (and what I do myself) was this:

  1. Create a small amount of space in your everyday life to retreat - Create some space in your daily routine where you disconnect from all the things (work, computer, TV, cell phone, friends and family) and reconnect to YOU. This can look like a yoga or meditation practice, nightly journaling routine or other ritual. Ideally this happens every day.

  2. Plan for regular, bigger retreat times. Aim to have a longer "retreat" on your calendar each week or month. Sure this can be a long weekend in Maine with a teacher who inspires you (!!), or a staycation where you leave the kids with your SO or parents and check into a fancy hotel, or a spa day with your best friend. But it can also be as simple as an afternoon where you turn off your phone and shut down your computer and are present with what's going on around you.

The important thing with both of these "retreats" is that you're able to tune out some of the noise of life (a lot of which comes from our technology!) and tune into YOU. Bonus if you can be alone and/or be in nature, but that doesn't have to happen every time.

So today I encourage you to look at your calendar. Do you have a true getaway planned? And if not, can you make the time and space for one, even if it is local, or more of a digital detox than a true vacation?

My next retreat will be in Maine - will you join me?

My next retreat will be in Maine - will you join me?

There may be resistance that comes up (I don't have time! It's too expensive! My family needs me!). This is NORMAL and likely means you're on the right path to something that your soul needs for change and growth.

And then I want to hear from you - what's your retreat plan? Are you going to join me in Maine in September? Is there another trip or vacation in the books? How are you going to bring this idea of "retreating" into your every day life? Leave a comment below and let me know!

For this past weekend's retreat I had the pleasure of fueling the group with delicious, healthy food. I put together a recipe book with all the yummy things we made including Paleo Banana Pancakes, Lemon Dill Salmon, Tahini Fudge and MORE!

Click here to download the Self Care Retreat Recipe Book.