It's okay to do less

The last few weeks have felt a little wonky - maybe it's the travel or the end of the vacation season, but I feel like I haven't totally found my post-summer flow.

Although I have SO much I want to share with you here, I'm struggling to find a regular time and space to write.

In addition to taking on a few more 1:1 coaching clients and working on some exciting projects with Robyn, I've been focused on my own gut stuff and making my health my #1 priority.

Despite being a health coach and virtually living in a world of wellness, this is the first time in years (or maybe ever???) I'm really, really putting myself first.

And you know what I've realized? Putting yourself first sometimes means being a little quieter and doing a little less while you go in a little more. And for right now, I am okay with that.

I'm okay with not being the first to check out the latest and greatest matcha spot in Brooklyn. I'm okay with passing on dessert during a fancy dinner and sipping hot water with lemon instead (not saying it was easy... but I'm okay with it). I'm okay with saying "no" to some networking opportunities and not immediately responding to every email that comes my way.

It's okay to do less.

It's also okay to share or give less.

If you're in a position of leadership, influence or service (which most people are to some extent), your default setting is likely giving out a lot of energy. Sharing your expertise or advice, teaching or mentoring, or mothering.

This is amazing, but not sustainable 100% of the time. As much as we give, we also need to receive. And I'll take that a step further to say it's not just about receiving support, encouragement and love... it's about digesting those energies as well [see last week's post for more on that!]

All this is to say... I'm digesting!!! ;)

I'm leaning into this space of processing and allowing myself to not juggle all the things and instead focus on fewer things, more important things.

I'm not telling you this as an excuse of any kind, but simply as a reminder that it is okay if you're feeling this way too. It's okay if you need to take a break from something to focus on you. And it's okay if you need to conserve your time and energy and do a little less than what feels normal to you.

It's all okay friends.

Serene sunset over the sound this weekend in Duck, North Carolina

Serene sunset over the sound this weekend in Duck, North Carolina

On that note, I do want to share a few quick reads, views or listens that may provide you with a little inspiration or entertainment while I'm feeling a little more quiet on the sharing front:

  • Watch: Simon Sinek on Millennials in the Workplace - Whether or not you work with anyone from the millennial generation, I think this 15 minute interview is a must-watch. I whole-heartedly believe that social media (and work) are the newest forms of addiction and that we're going to be hearing a LOT more on this subject in the years to come.

  • Listen: Abbie Galvin on The Lifestylist Podcast - I've been practicing a LOT of Katonah yoga the last year. A full blog post is definitely in the works, but if you're curious on learning more about this unique style of yoga and the theory behind it, listen to this episode with my teacher Abbie.

  • Read: Gabby Bernstein's Blog Post on Gut Health - Gabby is a modern spiritual leader, and she's not shy about sharing her own gut and food struggles. This blog post goes into detail about her own challenges and gut healing story. I skimmed it yesterday and look forward to diving in more fully later this week.

Hope one of these will be of interest or useful for you!

Space to reflect

I had another blog post planned for today but when I sat down to finish it, it didn't feel right. 

I was planning to write to you about sugar cravings and some tips I've been sharing with my 1:1 coaching clients the past week (which I'll likely send next week because it is really, really good info!).

But something stopped me when I went to hit publish. I make most of my business decisions from my gut and so I knew I had to heed that hesitation and listen more closely for what wanted to be shared today.

So I took a minute and tuned in. I stopped what I was doing, took a few deep breaths and I asked myself "What would feel more in alignment here?" and the answer became clear.

Nothing new.

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With everything going on this week - the Jewish New Year, remembering 9/11, the hurricane (which hits particularly close for me as my grandparents live most of the year in Duck, North Carolina and I am actually supposed to be going down there next weekend) and the back-to-school/life/work really setting in, it didn't feel like this was a week to share or start something new.

It felt like this should be a week for reflection. For honoring where we're at right in this moment, for feeling gratitude for all the good in our lives (especially the things we take for granted on a daily basis) and for acknowledging our intentions for the year to come.

Holding space for reflection is so important, yet something that we often skip over in our fast paced lives.

We jump from one thing to the next and don't always allow ourselves to "digest" our life experiences (yes, experiences and emotions need to be digested too!).

Personally, I think a lot of the gut issues I've been experiencing lately are a result of this go-go-go mentality. Even if you love your job and fill your life with all things you enjoy, you still need space to just breathe and be.

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So today (or this weekend) I encourage you to give yourself just that. Take a break and go for a walk without your phone. Sit on a park bench or your sofa without a book, cell phone or TV for distraction. Leave an hour of your day unscheduled (or if you tend to schedule EVERYTHING, block off an hour in your calendar to do nothing).

The most important part? Let go of your expectations of this time. Literally, expect nothing of yourself. Don't expect to feel amazing or rested or restored afterwards. Don't plan for revelations, insights or big emotional ahas (although those may naturally happen).

In that time, first just breathe. Let your thoughts wander. Allow your gaze to linger. Just be.

And then if there is something that you know you need to reflect on or simply be with, allow yourself to go there. Have your thoughts, feel through your feelings and let your body and your mind digest it all.

This is not a "to do" but if you do try this out or if something I shared above resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you :) Leave a comment below and let me know.

What even is Mercury Retrograde?

A few funny things happened to me recently:

  • Someone who I haven't been in touch with in years randomly popped back into my life (in a this-is-too-weird-to-be-just-coincidence way)
  • My wireless headphones stopped working out of the blue
  • As a sat down to write this blog post, I wasn't able to log on to my website hosting platform, email server or even access the internet (although it was working fine on my phone).

Sure, all of the these are just small deviations from the norm, and when taken apart I could think nothing of them. But together (and with what I know about the planets!) I couldn't help but see the wheels of Mercury Retrograde in motion.

Some of you may have heard of Mercury Retrograde. Others of you may be like "What on Earth is this girl talking about??" Depending on how much you believe in astrology stuff you may be open or skeptical in learning more about this astrological event - which is totally fine.

Today I'm going to be sharing more about WHAT Mercury Retrograde is, why you needn't freak out about it and how you can actually utilize this period to your advantage.

As I've disclaimed before, I am by no means an astrology expert. I'm simply someone who's interested, who's done some research and questioning herself and who wants to share what I've learned in the most digestible and useful way possible.

Let's get started!

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What is mercury Retrograde?

As a refresher, Mercury is the planet closet to the sun - closer to the sun than our planet Earth.

When a planet is in retrograde, it appears to move backwards (east to west rather than west to east) across the sky. The planet really ISN’T moving backward, but much like two trains or cars passing each other at different speeds, this creates the optical illusion that one is going backward.

A year on Mercury is shorter than a year on Earth (88 Earth days compared to 365), which means Mercury circles the sun 4 times in the time it takes us to finish one solar loop. A few times a year, Mercury passes the Earth in its orbit. As it rounds the bend, Mercury slows down and appears to stop (station) and spin backward (retrograde).

Why do people freak out about it?

Mercury is said to rule all types of communication, including listening, speaking, learning, reading, editing, researching, negotiating, selling, and buying. Mercury also rules formal agreements and contracts such as term papers, deeds, contracts, leases, wills, etc.

In our modern day and age, communication is also heavily linked to technology (hence my headphones and internet malfunctions) and travel.

That being said, this can be a time where normal business (both work business and personal business) feels a little haywire. Your significant other may misinterpret your text message. An email may get lost. Phones, computers, and other technology may not function properly. Travel may be delayed or trips even cancelled.

This is why people freak out. Mercury Retrograde can be a tough time to connect with others and communicate, which is why it's not the best time to launch something, make big commitments or enter into new deals. There's usually a disconnect between what you're trying to say or get across, and what the other person or people are hearing.

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How can I use the energy of Mercury retrograde to my advantage?

Retrograde periods offer us a chance to slow down and reflect on certain parts of our life.

Accordingly to Astrostyle.com:

Don’t start anything new. Focus on activities that start with the prefix “re-,” which means to go back. Review all your contracts before you sign. Renew your commitments, rather than making new ones. Prepare to repeat yourself often. Reunite with old friends, redecorate a room, rekindle a romance.

In addition, Mercury Retrograde is a great opportunity to handle unfinished business. Wrap up loose ends and finish projects you've started to clear up energetic space for new, future endeavors.

How long will it last?

The current Mercury Retrograde lasts from July 26th, 2018 until August 19th, 2018.

If you can, schedule some time to reflect and go in during this period so that you can come out the other side with more clarity and energetic space moving into the future.

 

 

Have you experienced Mercury retrograde in any of the ways discussed in this blog post?
Share with us all in the comments below!

Summer 17 Reflection

So long Summer 2017, I'll miss you but honestly, you were not what I expected.

Back in the spring I dreamed of living in my bikini and endless beach days, nights spent sipping cocktails and dancing and having way too much FUN. I had visions of finally feeling REALLY really good in my body, of crushing running races, of falling in love with this crazy city, and with that special someone.

I had big dreams, none of which really came true. Don't get me wrong, there was plenty of magic the past few months, but they've also been a challenge. I stopped running. I don't have those toned abs. I'm still confused what I'm doing in NYC, and still single.

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As I watched the sunset tonight, the last official night of summer, I felt my heart ache and tears in my eyes, but not because I'm sad or disappointed or feeling regret. Seeing the sun set and the moon rise reminded me that it's all part of the cycle - the moments of pure joy, of freedom, of soul connection, AND the moments of loneliness, of self doubt, of pain. It's all temporary, it's always changing, and just like the sun and moon, there's something much bigger than you or I pulling the strings.

What I have learned this summer is to appreciate it all and to be present in the hurt just as much as I'm present in the good. That's life, that's actually living, that's having a human experience. THAT is what connects us no matter what you are and what you do or don't believe in. And isn't that what we're all looking for after all?