The value of resistance

Yesterday afternoon I was on a call with a client, Katie - she's a coach and we used our session to talk through a new program she wants to launch this fall.

When we started our coaching call, she mentioned having a ton of resistance to this program. "It sounds fun" she said "but I'm just feeling stuck around it."

During our call, I led her through a meditation (I start many of my longer coaching calls like this!) and then we shook out all the details for her program. We took the ideas and thoughts that she had swirling in her head and made them into a tangible, action oriented, realistic plan.

I have a ton of experience with online marketing and launching programs through running my own business and supporting Robyn in running Your Healthiest You the last 4+ years. It's FUN for me to share some of the tips, tricks and best practices I've learned with my entrepreneur and aspiring entrepreneur clients.

There's value in looking at your resistance.

Sometimes we feel resistance because there's something in our plan or action that isn't aligned with our spirit, our best intention or higher self. But sometimes we simply feel resistance because we're walking into new territory and we need someone to help us find our way.

For Katie, the resistance was a combination of both. She was doing something new, yes, but through our session we also discovered that she wasn't planning to charge nearly enough for what she wanted to offer through this program. The price point didn't match the service, or the target customer.

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There's value in looking at your resistance.

Today I want you to look more closely at a new business project, a family matter or food/health change that you're feeling stuck around. I know, I know - this may be a big ask for a summer Friday, but hear me out (or mark this email as unread and come back to it on Sunday or Monday).

Below are some questions to ask yourself to get un-stuck. You can ask yourself these questions in a meditation, via journaling or call up a friend and have her or him ask you the questions out loud.

Bonus tip: Notice which inquiry method most appeals. I'm a huge fan of journaling, but some people do better actually talking through an issue.

Questions to ask yourself when you're feeling stuck:

  • Is this the most aligned plan of action for me? If no, what feels more aligned (or how can I feel more aligned with this)?

  • Is there something else about the scenario or problem that I need to know in order to move forward?

  • Is there a piece of my plan that needs to change?

  • Do I simply need more time? Am I putting to much pressure on myself to just get it done?

  • Do I need external support? If so, who is the best person to help me out?

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Towards the end of my call with Katie, I mentioned that I too had a project I was feeling a ton of resistance around (hint: it's something I mentioned in my last email).

I'm going to use these exact questions to dive into my resistance and find clarity around why I'm feeling stuck and how to move forward. I think I have an idea what's going on, but sometimes our resistance isn't exactly what it seems, there's usually a layer deeper (like with Katie and what we discovered about the misaligned price of her program).

If you use these questions and find them helpful, I'd love to know!

Leave a comment below, or better yet, share a photo or video on social media with your insight or aha. Make sure to tag me @emilynachazel so I can see your inspirational posts!

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Space to reflect

I had another blog post planned for today but when I sat down to finish it, it didn't feel right. 

I was planning to write to you about sugar cravings and some tips I've been sharing with my 1:1 coaching clients the past week (which I'll likely send next week because it is really, really good info!).

But something stopped me when I went to hit publish. I make most of my business decisions from my gut and so I knew I had to heed that hesitation and listen more closely for what wanted to be shared today.

So I took a minute and tuned in. I stopped what I was doing, took a few deep breaths and I asked myself "What would feel more in alignment here?" and the answer became clear.

Nothing new.

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With everything going on this week - the Jewish New Year, remembering 9/11, the hurricane (which hits particularly close for me as my grandparents live most of the year in Duck, North Carolina and I am actually supposed to be going down there next weekend) and the back-to-school/life/work really setting in, it didn't feel like this was a week to share or start something new.

It felt like this should be a week for reflection. For honoring where we're at right in this moment, for feeling gratitude for all the good in our lives (especially the things we take for granted on a daily basis) and for acknowledging our intentions for the year to come.

Holding space for reflection is so important, yet something that we often skip over in our fast paced lives.

We jump from one thing to the next and don't always allow ourselves to "digest" our life experiences (yes, experiences and emotions need to be digested too!).

Personally, I think a lot of the gut issues I've been experiencing lately are a result of this go-go-go mentality. Even if you love your job and fill your life with all things you enjoy, you still need space to just breathe and be.

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So today (or this weekend) I encourage you to give yourself just that. Take a break and go for a walk without your phone. Sit on a park bench or your sofa without a book, cell phone or TV for distraction. Leave an hour of your day unscheduled (or if you tend to schedule EVERYTHING, block off an hour in your calendar to do nothing).

The most important part? Let go of your expectations of this time. Literally, expect nothing of yourself. Don't expect to feel amazing or rested or restored afterwards. Don't plan for revelations, insights or big emotional ahas (although those may naturally happen).

In that time, first just breathe. Let your thoughts wander. Allow your gaze to linger. Just be.

And then if there is something that you know you need to reflect on or simply be with, allow yourself to go there. Have your thoughts, feel through your feelings and let your body and your mind digest it all.

This is not a "to do" but if you do try this out or if something I shared above resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you :) Leave a comment below and let me know.

I'm surprised I wrote this (but not really)

OMG you guys - I can't believe what I'm going to share with you today. It's probably the funniest thing I've read in awhile, and I WROTE IT!

This past Saturday, I received an email from my mom with the subject "Look what I found." She had just emailed me about discovering a computer charger while cleaning out my childhood room, so I figured this email was about something similar.

I was wrong - she hadn't found a missing electronic or once loved Beanie Baby (remember those??); she had found an essay I wrote in 5th or 6th grade about what I wanted to be when I grew up.

I read the two pages and immediately had to call her while I simultaneously forwarded the essay to a few of my closest friends. I could not believe what I had written and ultimately, what I had predicted, so long ago.

I'm sharing the original essay here, because it's just too funny and awesome not to, PLUS a limited time savings offer on the program that allowed me to live out my childhood dream.

Note: We believe the prompt for this paper was for me to write about my "dream job/life" as if I were 35 and looking back on the journey and obstacles that led me there.

Here she is:

What's most interesting to me is that I don't remember dreaming of having a career in food until much later in life (mid twenties). I guess I suppressed this desire in favor of more "reasonable" careers - for a while I wanted to be a lawyer, and then a math teacher, and finally I settled on probably THE most reasonable career: accounting.  There's nothing wrong with this path, except that it wasn't my passion.

I feel so fortunate that today I am living the life I always dreamed of (although still working on the house, husband and kids... but hey, I'm not even 30 yet!).

Everyday I get to wake up and do what I LOVE - I develop good-for-you recipes, research and write about the latest healthy restaurants and wellness trends. I work for another health coach who mentors and inspires me, and I honestly learn something new every day. I get to help our clients and community beat belly bloat, drop limiting beliefs and generally live their best lives. I live in one of the best cities in the world, although I do need to escape it every so often, and I DO since I'm able to do my work from just about anywhere.

Finding my way to this career that I'm passionate about all started when I enrolled in The Institute for Integrative Nutrition's Health Coach Training Program. As I've shared before, this program gave me both the tools AND the confidence I needed to leave my corporate job and pursue this "life of my dreams."

As I child, I thought that becoming a chef was the only career path available to me to follow my love of food. The Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) taught me that there are SO many more options than just that.

 

Here are just a few examples of jobs held by my friends & fellow IIN grads:

  • Michelle is a health coach, personal trainer AND run coach. Part of her "job" is running with her clients - how cool??

  • Sasha teaches yoga and leads yoga retreats from Upstate New York to Costa Rica to Palm Springs. She hosts "Mindful Mornings" which are a combination of yoga, meditation and breakfast to help busy New Yorkers start the day right.

  • Amy runs a corporate wellness biz - she speaks at companies and teaches employees how to snack smarter, squeeze in exercise and still feel good despite long hours.

  • Leslie helps her clients eat healthier by meal prepping for them. She also co-founded a company called Holistic Happening that hosts fun wellness events all around NYC!

  • Erika was one of the key founders of a wildly successful boutique fitness company in Washington, DC. She now works with entrepreneurs and small businesses on their financial wellness.

 

Other health coaches have gone on to start healthy snack companies, open juice and wellness cafes and become best selling authors; they've been featured on TV and reality shows, in fashion magazines and all over healthy living blogs.

 

 

Check out this post for more stories from IIN grads and ideas for WHAT you can do as a health coach: Careers of IIN Graduates

If ANY of this sounds of interest to you, I encourage you to check out IIN's Health Coach Training Program. You can sample a class for free using the link below and get a "taste" for what it's like to be a student.

IIN Sample Class (a taste for what it's like to be a student)

IIN Curriculum Guide (what's included in the training!)

MY IIN Story (how the program gave me the confidence to leave my corporate job!)

PLUS, I've partnered with IIN to offer YOU some juicy extras if you mention my name (Emily Nachazel) when you enroll:

  • You'll receive $$$ off tuition (email me for the specific details)

  • You'll also receive a private mentoring session with me. I'll help you clarify what you want to do with the IIN training (or how you want to apply it to your life), and help you put that into action.

Email me for specific details, or if you have ANY questions on the program or my experience. I'm more than happy to hop on the phone and help you decide if this is the right fit for you.

Email me at emily@emilynachazel.com if you have ANY questions. You can also chat directly with the IIN Admissions team (they ROCK!) by calling (877) 733-1520.

 

 

Remember to mention my name to receive that special savings when you enroll!