On leaving NYC

Earlier this year it became clear to me that my time in NYC was coming to an end.

I moved here almost 6 years ago, and while there's SO much I love about the city, there's also so much that feels misaligned with what I want for my future.

So like the good planner that I am I immediately came up with my exit strategy and timeline. At the time I thought my lease was up at the end of October, and there were also some big changes with my work happening around then (will share more on that soon!), so that felt like the right time to pack up and move on.

I started telling all my friends and family that I was leaving NYC this year. I even put it on my online dating profile (yeah... as you can imagine that fact didn't get me the kind of dates that I wanted).

I won't go into the details but SO much has changed since that decision a few months back. And as fall quickly approached I found myself completely torn about the move: I still don't see myself here long term, but October feels too soon.

There are still things I want to do and experience and learn from this city. The anxiety started to build the more and more I looked at my calendar and the weeks between TODAY and October began to dwindle.

A few weeks back I was meeting with on my teachers. As I talked to her about this predicament, she listened (for awhile!) and then gave me some very good advice.

She said "Emily, the best time to make a transition is when you're ahead. When you've felt like you've achieved or learned or experienced what you needed to from a specific person or situation. It's better to leave on good terms."

And then I realized: If I left NYC in October, I'd be rushing it. I'd be running away. In the grand scheme of things, a few months is nothing. And there is NO RUSH.

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This can be applied to any goal or wish. Really, what's the rush in getting there? If you hurry yourself through the process, you'll likely miss some of the lessons, magical moments and key connections that will energetically propel you into your next level, whatever and wherever that may be.

It's not failing if you change your plan, your dream or your timeline, especially if it allows you to feel more peace.

We cannot co create with the universe (or with our higher selves) when we have a strict agenda. Sure, having a dream or plan or timeline is helpful, but we need to keep our eyes, ears and palms open to new opportunities, information, and insight that comes to us along the way.

So let this be your reminder for you that there is no rush. You have plenty of time. There's no prize in getting "there" (that next relationship, the better job, the new hometown) the fastest. You can take your sweet time.

Here's to going slow.

The value of resistance

Yesterday afternoon I was on a call with a client, Katie - she's a coach and we used our session to talk through a new program she wants to launch this fall.

When we started our coaching call, she mentioned having a ton of resistance to this program. "It sounds fun" she said "but I'm just feeling stuck around it."

During our call, I led her through a meditation (I start many of my longer coaching calls like this!) and then we shook out all the details for her program. We took the ideas and thoughts that she had swirling in her head and made them into a tangible, action oriented, realistic plan.

I have a ton of experience with online marketing and launching programs through running my own business and supporting Robyn in running Your Healthiest You the last 4+ years. It's FUN for me to share some of the tips, tricks and best practices I've learned with my entrepreneur and aspiring entrepreneur clients.

There's value in looking at your resistance.

Sometimes we feel resistance because there's something in our plan or action that isn't aligned with our spirit, our best intention or higher self. But sometimes we simply feel resistance because we're walking into new territory and we need someone to help us find our way.

For Katie, the resistance was a combination of both. She was doing something new, yes, but through our session we also discovered that she wasn't planning to charge nearly enough for what she wanted to offer through this program. The price point didn't match the service, or the target customer.

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There's value in looking at your resistance.

Today I want you to look more closely at a new business project, a family matter or food/health change that you're feeling stuck around. I know, I know - this may be a big ask for a summer Friday, but hear me out (or mark this email as unread and come back to it on Sunday or Monday).

Below are some questions to ask yourself to get un-stuck. You can ask yourself these questions in a meditation, via journaling or call up a friend and have her or him ask you the questions out loud.

Bonus tip: Notice which inquiry method most appeals. I'm a huge fan of journaling, but some people do better actually talking through an issue.

Questions to ask yourself when you're feeling stuck:

  • Is this the most aligned plan of action for me? If no, what feels more aligned (or how can I feel more aligned with this)?

  • Is there something else about the scenario or problem that I need to know in order to move forward?

  • Is there a piece of my plan that needs to change?

  • Do I simply need more time? Am I putting to much pressure on myself to just get it done?

  • Do I need external support? If so, who is the best person to help me out?

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Towards the end of my call with Katie, I mentioned that I too had a project I was feeling a ton of resistance around (hint: it's something I mentioned in my last email).

I'm going to use these exact questions to dive into my resistance and find clarity around why I'm feeling stuck and how to move forward. I think I have an idea what's going on, but sometimes our resistance isn't exactly what it seems, there's usually a layer deeper (like with Katie and what we discovered about the misaligned price of her program).

If you use these questions and find them helpful, I'd love to know!

Leave a comment below, or better yet, share a photo or video on social media with your insight or aha. Make sure to tag me @emilynachazel so I can see your inspirational posts!

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A really good question to ask yourself

Where do you feel like your most YOU?

Is it around certain people or places? After specific activities? In the absence of certain things?

What lights you up in a way no amount of caffeine or sugar can? What’s easy for you? What could you do for hours? What could you talk about for hours?

These are all clues to your unique design, your special gifts. Your path on this planet.

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It’s common knowledge that although we’re all humans, we are all different. We have different interests and skills, different tastes and preferences, different hopes and desires.

Unfortunately our society preferences a certain path. Go to school, get a job (in one of these six professions), work hard, meet someone, buy a house, have a family, keep working hard, keep up the pace, retire and relax.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with following this path, except if it doesn’t feel like YOU.

We’re not all meant to work 9-5. We’re not all designed to have just one career. We’re not all suited for computer work (or care giving work, or manual labor).

Many of us are realizing this. Some (like myself!) figure it out on the younger side - in our late 20s and 30s when the traditional path isn’t working for us anymore. Some it happens later in life.

But the common reaction when you do realize that the path you’re on may not be the one for you is “Well what now? What do I do if I can’t follow this plan anymore?”

This is where it’s not only helpful but CRUCIAL to get support. To find a coach or mentor who gets you, who sees you and who has the tools and experience to guide you back to YOU.

And that’s what I do!

My ultimate goal in all of my coaching is to help my clients find themselves. Sometimes that’s with food (just like jobs, no one diet fits us all!), but more often it’s with LIFE and career.

Where do YOU want to go with your life? And what do you need to do to get there?

There’s a good amount of this self discovery you can do by yourself. And if you’re reading this, my guess is that that process has already begun. But none of us are meant to do this alone.

We’re supposed to have teachers and leaders that help us see a different possibility, a different future, and who then help us do the work and take the steps we need to get there.

If you’re at a crossroads in your life, or if you’re simply feeling like there’s a different path for you, I’d love to be your teacher and your guide.

Earlier this week I announced that I was opening up two spots for 1:1 coaching. I'm interviewing candidates for those spaces this weekend, but I've decided to keep the application open and create one more space for someone else.

Through working with me 1:1 you’ll get to know yourself on a deep level, shift habits and ultimately find clarity on where you’re going next. You'll also find peace in knowing that where you are is exactly where you need to be, there’s really no rush to get “there” wherever that ends up for you.

Learn more about how my coaching works + apply for the last remaining spot here: Coaching with Emily.

If you have any questions not answered on the program page, feel free to reply to this email and I’ll get back to you shortly!

What this time of year is PERFECT for

SPRING. A time of beginnings. Of growth. Of expansion. Of starting something new

There’s something about the spring that lights a fire under our butts and says NOW IS THE TIME.

5 years ago I began my health coach training with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition

4 years ago I left my corporate job and started my business

3 years ago I moved into my own apartment in Brooklyn (which I have since moved out of, but living alone was HUGE for me)

2 years ago became the first official employee of Your Healthiest You (big for both me and Robyn!)

1 year ago I launched my new website

And this year I’m excited to be kicking off an apprenticeship at The Studio in NYC

Astrologically, the year starts now. Aries (which we entered into this week) is considered the youngest sign of the zodiac.

All astrological signs have their specific strengths and shadows - it’s not the sign itself that’s bad or good, but what YOU decide to do with that energy.

Aries is the initiator.

Aries season is time to be brave, bold and go after what you want. It’s also an opportunity to be selfish (or “self first” as I like to say).

My question for you today is this: what are you wanting to initiate or move forward with for the year ahead?

While the end of winter (Pisces!) was all about reflection, NOW is the time to take action.

Update your resume and apply for that dream job.

Start writing your blog.

Make the move (you can interpret that one however you’d like).

The time is NOW.

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If you’ve been struggling with finding clarity on your life’s path, or feeling stuck around taking action with the things you know need to change, I want you to know that it’s okay.

We have a LOT going on in our modern lives, and sometimes our dreams and goals can get lost amongst incoming text messages, family commitments and work obligations.

You don’t have to tackle your health, life or business goals alone.

As humans we do better with support and accountability. And we also do better when we have someone cheering us on, telling us “You’re doing a GREAT job” and reminding us of our bigger plans when life gets in the way.

I know first hand the power of this season. I also know the power of support.

My biggest growth in the last five years hasn’t come just because I decided it was time to quit or change or try. It’s come because I had a vision for myself, and had the support I needed - my incredible coaches, mentors and teachers - in order to put that wish or whim or dream into action.

Do you have a vision holder? Someone who can see your higher, brighter, more radiant self? And someone who can provide you with the specific guidance and motivation YOU need in order to make that vision a reality?

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My official title is “health coach” but many of my more recent clients have told me that doesn’t truly capture what I do.

“I’d describe Emily as a mindset coach. Yes, she helped me a lot with the practical things (strategies for getting back into my meditation practice, tips around eating healthy while being around not-so-healthy food every day at my job, resources for launching my own podcast) but more than anything else she’s helped me shift my mindset. I’m so much kinder to myself. I also feel empowered and excited to step into this next phase of my career and life.” - Chloe, new health + life coach

If there’s a health or life goal that you want to make happen this year in a way that feels FUN and aligned, I’d love to support you through that process.

To honor the energy of SPRING, of Aries season and the astrological new year, I’m opening up 2 spots for 1:1 coaching. We can start as early as next week!

To learn more about 1:1 coaching + apply to work with me, click here: Private coaching with Emily

If you have any questions not answered on this page, hit reply to this email and I’ll get back to you within 24 hours.

I know first hand the power of this season. I also know the power of the right support.

These two spots will fill quickly, so whether you’ve been curious about working with me for a while or you just found me but all of this is resonating with you, I encourage you to apply today.

Let’s change your life, together.

Patience

"Ahhh. I've been waiting all week for this." I said after I took the first delicious sip of my decaf almond milk latte.

My friend Amanda gave me a look and I explained further "I've been craving an almond milk latte ALL week. But I told myself I'd wait to get it until the weekend. I'm working on cultivating my patience."

A very much enjoyed coffee date :)

A very much enjoyed coffee date :)

I'm not naturally the patient type. When I see something that I want, I want it now. When I recognize a behavior in myself that isn't supportive, I want to change it ASAP.

And while this can often be a great motivator to get sh*t done and continually improve, I've also seen impatience lead to one too many impulse purchases, overindulging with certain foods and a general inability to be without.

I know I'm not alone and this is by no means my fault.

Our modern society does not foster patience with our 24-hour businesses, social media platforms that we're constantly updating and sites like Amazon.com where you can buy almost anything and have it delivered to you (often for FREE) within 2 days. Not to mention books and movies and shows all available at the click of a button.

It's not only food and things that we go overboard on, but also information.

Just like there's value in having space to digest food, there's value in the "in between" time - time where we don't have the answer or the next season or new cookbook.

So something I'm working on this year is PATIENCE. Instead of immediately buying or downloading or searching, I'm asking myself to take more space around my actions and decisions.

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What cultivating PATIENCE looks like for me...

 - When I hear of a new book I want to read, I'm not immediately buying or downloading it. I'll request it from my local library and WAIT for it to become available, even if there's a waiting list.

 - When I have a craving for a certain treat (like an almond milk latte), I'll give myself time before immediately giving in. This may just mean I wait until that afternoon, or maybe it means I wait until the weekend. If I still want the thing then, I'll have it and enjoy it fully.

- When I have a random question, I'll think about it before looking up the answer on the internet. This is more for little questions that pop up in life or in conversation (What was the name of that song we used to sing? I wonder what spice they use in this dish?) versus specific work or task focused questions.

- Instead of sharing ideas the moment they pop up, I'll sit with them a little longer to allow them to marinate. There are some exciting things I'm working on now that I want to share with you all, but I also know they'll be more flushed out and ultimately more impactful if they're given the appropriate time and space to blossom.

Not only has this practice of patience been supportive of my bank account, but I also feel like I'm using and strengthening my brain and my INTUITION more. The additional time and space allows me to more often connect to myself and understand if there's something else behind my craving or desire to buy or learn or know.

Maybe patience is no big deal for you, but my hunch is that patience is something most of us living within modern society could be more aware of.

If anything I shared today resonated with you, I encourage you to try it out! Pick one of the examples I listed above and practice it for a week or two. See how you feel and maybe where you could apply these principles in other areas of your life.

And then let me know how it goes!


HOW ARE YOU PRACTICING PATIENCE?

Leave a comment below so we can all be inspired!