There are a lot of things no one teaches you about being an adult. Even though I've technically been an adult for well over a decade, and living on my own and supporting myself for almost as long, the last year has been one of deep lessons truly learning what it means to be a grown up human.
Even though the lessons are sometimes tough, it's actually pretty cool to go through this evolution and learn that I can create my own schedule, my own reality, my own best life (and you can too).
Something that's come up for me recently as well as a number of my clients is the idea of creating time for real fun and adventure.
While many of us travel and go on vacations and have time off work, all that stuff isn't always FUN. It certainly can be, but sometimes your annual family beach vacation (or your kid's soccer tournament in North Carolina, or your college roommate's wedding on Long Island) isn't what your soul needs.
Even as adults we need fun and adventure. We need things to look forward to. We need time to just be ourselves and not just our commitments and our responsibilities.
So my question for you is this: Do you have something that you're looking forward to on your calendar this month? And taking it a step further, do you have something scheduled that you're excited about every month for the next few months?
I live by my Google calendar and I have a daily planner, but I still like to have a monthly calendar I hang on my wall. On this calendar goes the most important dates, events and birthdays.
Each time I turn to a new month, I have the opportunity to zoom out and ask myself: what does this month look like as a whole? Is there something I'm really, truly looking forward to on the horizon? Or am I simply filling my time with tasks, to-dos and commitments.
We all have the same number of hours in a day, same number of days in a week, same number of weeks in a year. But what you do with this time is up to you.
Not every moment is going to be perfectly productive or supremely relaxing or exactly aligned with your goals and dreams. We all have things we do that are for our jobs, or our families or our friends. Those things can be wonderful too, but I want to encourage you to make sure that you're making time for you. What lights YOU up. What leaves you feeling fulfilled and energized and happy.
The end of spring is a perfect time to look at the season ahead and plan. For many of us, summer is lighter on the "work" front, and there are more opportunities to get away or travel or reconnect with friends.
Aim to have least one thing that you're looking forward to on your calendar each month. It doesn't have to be a week vacation or retreat, but perhaps it's as simple as a day trip or show or special dinner with a close friend you haven't seen in awhile.
And once you've decided what you're going to do - schedule it out in advance. All the other to-dos, commitments and responsibilities can then be planned around that thing that truly is most important.
So what's on my calendar for the next few months?
I'm going to Maine for a week at the end of the month. It's my happy place and I'm so looking forward to cozy morning fires in our house in the woods, doing the crossword puzzle and baking with my grandma, long walks on the beach and fresh ocean air.
And in June I have the pleasure of putting on two retreats. Yes, these are technically work for me, but I am truly excited for more time outside of the city, an excuse to do lots of yoga and eat really healthy food, and to connect with many of you!
If you're looking for a fun summer adventure to put on your calendar, check out these two retreats. Both are going to be nourishing in so many ways and I'd love to have you join us:
If you have any questions about either of these experience, shoot me a message and I'll respond as soon as I can.
Whether your soul needs a retreat, a fun night our or a long, hot bath, make time for it. I've said this before and I will likely say it again, but when you take care of yourself and fill yourself up, you're better able to show up for everyone else in your life. Sometimes it can feel like you'll fall behind if you take time off work, or that you're being a bad parent if you leave for a weekend but the opposite it true.
When we show up for ourselves, we encourage everyone else around us to do the same and ultimately THAT is what makes this world a better place.