"Ahhh. I've been waiting all week for this." I said after I took the first delicious sip of my decaf almond milk latte.
My friend Amanda gave me a look and I explained further "I've been craving an almond milk latte ALL week. But I told myself I'd wait to get it until the weekend. I'm working on cultivating my patience."
I'm not naturally the patient type. When I see something that I want, I want it now. When I recognize a behavior in myself that isn't supportive, I want to change it ASAP.
And while this can often be a great motivator to get sh*t done and continually improve, I've also seen impatience lead to one too many impulse purchases, overindulging with certain foods and a general inability to be without.
I know I'm not alone and this is by no means my fault.
Our modern society does not foster patience with our 24-hour businesses, social media platforms that we're constantly updating and sites like Amazon.com where you can buy almost anything and have it delivered to you (often for FREE) within 2 days. Not to mention books and movies and shows all available at the click of a button.
It's not only food and things that we go overboard on, but also information.
Just like there's value in having space to digest food, there's value in the "in between" time - time where we don't have the answer or the next season or new cookbook.
So something I'm working on this year is PATIENCE. Instead of immediately buying or downloading or searching, I'm asking myself to take more space around my actions and decisions.
What cultivating PATIENCE looks like for me...
- When I hear of a new book I want to read, I'm not immediately buying or downloading it. I'll request it from my local library and WAIT for it to become available, even if there's a waiting list.
- When I have a craving for a certain treat (like an almond milk latte), I'll give myself time before immediately giving in. This may just mean I wait until that afternoon, or maybe it means I wait until the weekend. If I still want the thing then, I'll have it and enjoy it fully.
- When I have a random question, I'll think about it before looking up the answer on the internet. This is more for little questions that pop up in life or in conversation (What was the name of that song we used to sing? I wonder what spice they use in this dish?) versus specific work or task focused questions.
- Instead of sharing ideas the moment they pop up, I'll sit with them a little longer to allow them to marinate. There are some exciting things I'm working on now that I want to share with you all, but I also know they'll be more flushed out and ultimately more impactful if they're given the appropriate time and space to blossom.
Not only has this practice of patience been supportive of my bank account, but I also feel like I'm using and strengthening my brain and my INTUITION more. The additional time and space allows me to more often connect to myself and understand if there's something else behind my craving or desire to buy or learn or know.
Maybe patience is no big deal for you, but my hunch is that patience is something most of us living within modern society could be more aware of.
If anything I shared today resonated with you, I encourage you to try it out! Pick one of the examples I listed above and practice it for a week or two. See how you feel and maybe where you could apply these principles in other areas of your life.
And then let me know how it goes!
HOW ARE YOU PRACTICING PATIENCE?
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